Lots of alone time for recovery. Although my fiancée and I are very comfortable to be silent in each others' space, we often just do our own things in separate rooms; we call it "cabbaging". I'm cabbaging right now in factSocializing with people can be absolutely exhausting at times and I’m not sure how people manage to not be exhausted
Totally agree with the “take time for recovery” aspect… I always set up times of the day right after something that might be overstimulating to me, like socialising with a group of people or having to go to some place that’s really loud, to just come back to my room and do something! My three most common stims are clicking a specific pen I always carry around, trying to curl my hair around with my index finger, and stroking this stuffed animal I have in my room… so just taking time to do that helped so much!!Socializing with people can be absolutely exhausting at times and I’m not sure how people manage to not be exhausted
my partner has no problem putting on headphones if i'm watching something he finds annoying to overhear, teeheeLots of alone time for recovery. Although my fiancée and I are very comfortable to be silent in each others' space, we often just do our own things in separate rooms; we call it "cabbaging". I'm cabbaging right now in fact
hi, fellow autistic person here
i know it's not common knowledge, so i don't blame any of you people for still using it, but i would advise against saying that you have "asperger's"
hans asperger, which is what it's named after, was discovered to have had a prominent role in the nazi's eugenics campaign, leading to the direct killing of at least 800 children.
while i understand that people probably have some attachment to that term, i would recommend instead saying that one is autistic (or "has autism" if you really want to).
edit: here is an article by the guardian and one by nature that also covers the research done by edith sheffer and simon baron-cohen
Having neurodiverse traits can make it hard to feel welcome into certain groups at times, especially as one gets older. When i grow up, I hope to be a shining example of hope for all of us, regardless of any disability labels we might carry around with us. For the time being, I'd be happy to be friends with any of you. I'm not exactly a social media/forum posting freak like my parents are on Facebook sometimes, (you know who you are lol), but the least I can do is open myself up to talking with as many of you as I'm able to. I believe we can all learn from each other, and just as I want to teach others, I can learn from each and every one of you, too. :)ADHD, OCD, General Anxiety, willing to make any friends i can get!
ooooofound out from some video yesterday that people on the spectrum tend to interpret sensory perceptions starting from small details and building up to a full picture while most neurotypical people process things starting from big picture and then dive into the details
and like holy shit lol yeah that's totally how i experience things, it's so obvious now that it's been pointed out but i never noticed before / just kind of assumed this was how sight works. and i can see how it stretches out to other senses as well, it's definitely true with sounds too
it explains a lot of things. my taste in art, my taste in music. fun stuff. shame i wasn't told about this earlier
I haven't noticed this that much for sensory perception, but man have I noticed it for arranging information. I basically can't write an introductory section without already having the entire rest of the document complete, because I just don't think of the big picture immediately. Of course, I usually refer to that style of thought as depth-first (as compared to breadth-first) because that's an existing term that I'm familiar with.found out from some video yesterday that people on the spectrum tend to interpret sensory perceptions starting from small details and building up to a full picture while most neurotypical people process things starting from big picture and then dive into the details
and like holy shit lol yeah that's totally how i experience things, it's so obvious now that it's been pointed out but i never noticed before / just kind of assumed this was how sight works. and i can see how it stretches out to other senses as well, it's definitely true with sounds too
it explains a lot of things. my taste in art, my taste in music. fun stuff. shame i wasn't told about this earlier
this is a fascinating point of discussion because i think there is merit to wanting to choose either version of how you describe your neurodiversity, although i totally understand the reserve against describing how our brains are from a relative aspect of "normalcy," assuming that normalcy can be clearly defined and then referenced against for comparison's sake to what must then be "not normal" or "atypical"to end on a more positive note, here's an amazingly adorable drawing by autism sketches about how i, and many other self-advocates, feel.
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Yes, absolutely. This isn't something we have. It is something we are, no different from how a person might be any other demographic factor. The secret to our success is that we shouldn't let that demographic leave us in uncertainty. In more severe cases, this behavior often can't be helped- but that's what we have each other for: to help those just like us feel comfort and happiness.to end on a more positive note, here's an amazingly adorable drawing by autism sketches about how i, and many other self-advocates, feel.
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There's only so much I can say here since I'd rather not ask about another user's personal life, but what I can say is that one of the things I want to work on the most as a (hopefully, still working on the education for it) neurodiversity advocate is to help families- more specifically parents of the ones diagnosed- understand the rewards and consequences of their behavior. Raising a neurodiverse child might be very different from raising a "typical" child, but that's okay. Again, there's only so much I can assume about your situation, but in my honest opinion, the labels we're given even by our loved ones should never determine what we're able to do with a different skillset.I’ve been diagnosed with Autism although I’m not convinced I have it. It’s nothing to be ashamed of but also be careful not to use it as an excuse. I think my social and sensitivity issues are more likely a result of bad parenting.
Remember that part I just said about not wanting to ask about other people's personal lives? Yeah, well, in this case, I'd like to say a little something in your defense. I've chatted with you before on various other threads, and you seem like a perfectly good person to me. Does it really matter what your sexual identity is when it comes to neurodiversity, though? From what I can gather, your mother (unless she's one of those over-conservatives, that explains everything) doesn't seem to understand that the two concepts are not tied to one another in any way. With things like autism spectrum disorder appearing so much more frequently in males, I can understand how sexual orientation could have something to do with it... listen. Maybe this is helping, maybe it isn't. I don't want to call myself an excellent motivational speaker by any means. But if an indoctrinated fear of your parent(s)' beliefs are holding you back from discovering your true self even further, that's a situation that only you, your parent(s), and maybe a professional counselor can talk about and resolve. And it starts by working together.It's still gonna be a few months until I can get a diagnosis for ADD, although at this point I'm relatively certain I may have it, and definitely certain I have OCD
the OCD, at the moment, has a much more negative impact on my life with ADD. ADD is mostly just me being unable to focus on anything unless it really captivates me, which does have an impact on my school performance, but I can manage provided the work is easy enough. OCD meanwhile has a profoundly annoying effect on my mental health, right now especially with my sexuality. I'd rather seek a diagnosis and treatment for that but my mom definitely wouldn't let me, especially if I told her I was considering the idea of being anything but straight, so I have to wait until I can go off to college in a few months
sexuality of course isn't always decided by neurodiversity if that's what you mean but the OCD is the reason why figuring it out is so difficultRemember that part I just said about not wanting to ask about other people's personal lives? Yeah, well, in this case, I'd like to say a little something in your defense. I've chatted with you before on various other threads, and you seem like a perfectly good person to me. Does it really matter what your sexual identity is when it comes to neurodiversity, though? From what I can gather, your mother (unless she's one of those over-conservatives, that explains everything) doesn't seem to understand that the two concepts are not tied to one another in any way. With things like autism spectrum disorder appearing so much more frequently in males, I can understand how sexual orientation could have something to do with it... listen. Maybe this is helping, maybe it isn't. I don't want to call myself an excellent motivational speaker by any means. But if an indoctrinated fear of your parent(s)' beliefs are holding you back from discovering your true self even further, that's a situation that only you, your parent(s), and maybe a professional counselor can talk about and resolve. And it starts by working together.
What we’re the words I used in my initial post? “Appearing much more frequently” or something like that? I am aware of this, and I do apologize for the seeming lack of awareness towards the fact. “Autistic behavior traits”, so to speak, can easily be observed and recognized on both sides.semi related nitpick but autism does NOT "[appear] so much more frequently in males" its that autism and similar things are heavily UNDERdiagnosed in women largely because of misogyny + symptoms tend to be "less obvious" or misdiagnosed as something else + various other reasons
googling "autism underdiagnosed in women" will come up with pages and pages and pages of essays and studies about this
obligatory disclaimer that i'm not a trained professional / no ocd treatment is one-size-fits-all etc, but these articles have been super helpful to me to reframe my approach towards dealing with OCD etc. https://drmichaeljgreenberg.com/articles/OCD is really kicking my ass lately. Anybody have some free resources I can use to try and lessen the burden? I can't really pay for anything
Going to link you to this post I made. Has tons of resources for dealing with OCD. You can feel free to message me about it as well if you like (this is now my 4th year of knowing I have OCD, so I've learned how to deal with it pretty well myself). Best wishes for a peaceful mind either way :)OCD is really kicking my ass lately. Anybody have some free resources I can use to try and lessen the burden? I can't really pay for anything