Really? I swear Lion King was PG out here. Don't know about Mulan.Mulan was G. Along with Tarzan and Lion King. Though admittedly those weren't humans dying in Tarzan and Lion King.
Really? I swear Lion King was PG out here. Don't know about Mulan.Mulan was G. Along with Tarzan and Lion King. Though admittedly those weren't humans dying in Tarzan and Lion King.
~Yes I am virgin. I'm still one because I don't care for sex. I'm just not interested, neither in sex nor in romance.
- Are you a virgin? If so, then why are you still one? If not, then what made you decide to lose it/give it away?
- What are your views on the idea of "casual sex" or, in general, the value of virginity? Is it something worth keeping?
- If it is, why do you think it's worth keeping? If not, justify why it's lost its value.
- Do you think there's a certain dogma about being a virgin? Is it generally accepted, approved upon, or criticized?
- If you are not a virgin, what would you say to a virgin friend who is considering giving it up? Would you encourage him to lose it or keep it, and why?
- What emotional and relational requirements do you think there are for being ready to have sex for the first time?
Are you a virgin? If it's not a personal question.Are you a virgin? If so, then why are you still one? If not, then what made you decide to lose it/give it away?
- What are your views on the idea of "casual sex" or, in general, the value of virginity? Is it something worth keeping?
- If it is, why do you think it's worth keeping? If not, justify why it's lost its value.
- Do you think there's a certain dogma about being a virgin? Is it generally accepted, approved upon, or criticized?
- If you are not a virgin, what would you say to a virgin friend who is considering giving it up? Would you encourage him to lose it or keep it, and why?
- What emotional and relational requirements do you think there are for being ready to have sex for the first time?
Seeing that reminded me of Zach and Miri make a Porno (yes, that was an awful movie).^ Though I wouldn't compare sex to watching a movie, ivar brings up a good point. Too often our society (likely due to religious influence) puts stigmas on the act of sex. It's a natural thing. Consider this, we can watch people die in a G-rated Disney movie. Is having watching sex more scarring to a kid, or seeing someone die?? Personally, I believe that death is a far more terrible thing. If humans are good, how is their creation such an unholy act and their demise a neutral one?
If I recall correctly, often animal cubs (along with play fighting and chasing) will try sexual acts with each other while growing up to gain experience. It's part of life, no different from eating an apple.
I can't stay for long, but I am asexual. I think this MAY have SLIGHTY been PARTIALLY due to my SEMI-aloof childhood.you obviously have some big psychological problems.
I recall as a child of five, the most horrifying thing in the world was the realization that I'd die. I'd cry if a protagonist died in a movie. I got no sleep for an entire summer because I'd think about death and how much I love life. Personally, I think society is wrong to say that murder is appropriate for kids but sex is not.^ Though I wouldn't compare sex to watching a movie, ivar brings up a good point. Too often our society (likely due to religious influence) puts stigmas on the act of sex. It's a natural thing. Consider this, we can watch people die in a G-rated Disney movie. Is having watching sex more scarring to a kid, or seeing someone die?? Personally, I believe that death is a far more terrible thing. If humans are good, how is their creation such an unholy act and their demise a neutral one?
If I recall correctly, often animal cubs (along with play fighting and chasing) will try sexual acts with each other while growing up to gain experience. It's part of life, no different from eating an apple.
Seeing that reminded me of Zach and Miri make a Porno (yes, that was an awful movie).
That movie was going to recieve an X rating unless it toned down some of it's sex. The director remarked it was ironic that movies like Hostel and Saw get away with an R rating while showing people cut up, mutilated, and having thier eyes ripped out, while showing two people having sex is considered worse.
No, I'm not a virgin. It wasn't really a decision in the way of, "Should I really go through with this?" When I saw my boyfriend for the first time, I knew that he was it.
- Are you a virgin? If so, then why are you still one? If not, then what made you decide to lose it/give it away?
I think casual sex cheapens the act and has really made an impact on the state of humanity. There's people out there who don't care about the feelings of the partners they hook up with for a night, or an on going "friends with benefits" relationship. It's not virginity I'm necesarily preaching about valuing, I'm just arguing that having sex should be something that you do with someone you have an intimate bond with.
- What are your views on the idea of "casual sex" or, in general, the value of virginity? Is it something worth keeping?
It's worth keeping due to the fact that ... Well, an example, the OP stated that his girlfriend wished she had been a little more careful as to losing her virginity. This is why it's worth keeping. Maybe you'll meet someone better down the road, and you'll wish, "Hey, I really wish I could've given this one thing to him/her."
- If it is, why do you think it's worth keeping? If not, justify why it's lost its value.
The people I know are accepting as to whether or not you're a virgin. It's not a topic of concern. It doesn't make you less of a person. Unless you're the type of person who makes getting laid to lose your virginity a priority and obsession. then it just shows your lame personality.
- Do you think there's a certain dogma about being a virgin? Is it generally accepted, approved upon, or criticized?
That's not for me to decide. If someone came to me for that, all I could tell them is to reflect on their feelings for this person. Then again, if they're coming to me for advice, they're second guessing themselves and maybe they're not ready because of this.
- If you are not a virgin, what would you say to a virgin friend who is considering giving it up? Would you encourage him to lose it or keep it, and why?
I had a hard time getting intimate with anyone I started dating. It was forced upon me once when I was younger, and I stopped dating after that. I knew I was waiting for the right person, and I just didn't wanna have sex so I could have some sort of high social status. When I met my current boyfriend, there was something different there from all of the guys I met. We had a bond, and I felt differently for him in a way I've never felt or any other human being. It wasn't just sexually, but it was a strong bond we have; to where I could feel comfortable with him and my body. We indulged in each other's intellects. Finally, we moved to the next level.
- What emotional and relational requirements do you think there are for being ready to have sex for the first time?
This is something that really sucks. I was so close to losing my virginity when I was 14, but I forced the guy off of me and broke up with him. I'm so glad I just didn't let this happen. I wouldn't have been able to share this one private intimate thing with my current boyfriend. I'm so happy knowing that I made the right choice. Even if we do break up, I'll still be content in knowing that I kept it for him.Now, she does approve of my virginity and wishes that she had been more careful in keeping hers.
Hey, I really wish I could have given my first kiss, or my first hug, or my first holding hands, or the first time I ever ate an apple with someone to this person. Should it mean I don't do any of those things in case I meet someone better in the future?It's worth keeping due to the fact that ... Well, an example, the OP stated that his girlfriend wished she had been a little more careful as to losing her virginity. This is why it's worth keeping. Maybe you'll meet someone better down the road, and you'll wish, "Hey, I really wish I could've given this one thing to him/her."
Yes, yes it was - but I secretly loved it anyway :DSeeing that reminded me of Zach and Miri make a Porno (yes, that was an awful movie).
Oh definately! It's not ironic it's just plain wrong!!That movie was going to recieve an X rating unless it toned down some of it's sex. The director remarked it was ironic that movies like Hostel and Saw get away with an R rating while showing people cut up, mutilated, and having thier eyes ripped out, while showing two people having sex is considered worse.
You're taking this to the extreme and twisting my words around. Why do people choose to hold on to their virginity? Because it obviously means a lot to them. Why do some people regret losing their virginity? Because it means a lot to them. Take what you value and hold on to it. Whatever it may be.Hey, I really wish I could have given my first kiss, or my first hug, or my first holding hands, or the first time I ever ate an apple with someone to this person. Should it mean I don't do any of those things in case I meet someone better in the future?
This isn't an argument explaining the value of virginity, it presupposes the value of virginity and then makes a statement based on it.
everyone should watch This Film is Not Yet Rated.Seeing that reminded me of Zach and Miri make a Porno (yes, that was an awful movie).
That movie was going to recieve an X rating unless it toned down some of it's sex. The director remarked it was ironic that movies like Hostel and Saw get away with an R rating while showing people cut up, mutilated, and having thier eyes ripped out, while showing two people having sex is considered worse.
Yes, but you appeared to be using that as an explanation as to why people value their virginity at all (i.e. people value their virginity because they can only share it with one person, therefore they want to hold onto it so they can share it with someone special). I was pointing out that argument is circular, as the sharing it with someone special does not, of itself, make virginity more valuable. It only holds if you presuppose the value of virginity; then you get that people value their virginity because they value their virginity.You're taking this to the extreme and twisting my words around. Why do people choose to hold on to their virginity? Because it obviously means a lot to them. Why do some people regret losing their virginity? Because it means a lot to them. Take what you value and hold on to it. Whatever it may be.
It's not circular, it just implies virginity has value.Yes, but you appeared to be using that as an explanation as to why people value their virginity at all (i.e. people value their virginity because they can only share it with one person, therefore they want to hold onto it so they can share it with someone special). I was pointing out that argument is circular, as the sharing it with someone special does not, of itself, make virginity more valuable. It only holds if you presuppose the value of virginity; then you get that people value their virginity because they value their virginity.
Why do people value virginity?It's not circular, it just implies virginity has value.
I'm not judging your girlfriend. Personally, I detest cheating and any form of it, but I do not know your girlfriend and I am not a personal witness of your relationship and I do not know the details of her loyalty to you. You make it clear that her second chance is valid and it seems like you love her very much.But then I found out a month into the relationship that she'd cheated on me and lied to me, and had had sex with the guy (whom she'd been dating for the last year). Now this is essentially what bothers me: she doesn't see sex to be as big of a deal as I do, or at least didn't. I am considering losing my virginity just so that I will stop caring about from now on.
1. I am still a virgin, and I am 23. My girlfriend is 22 and she too is a virgin. We have been dating for 6 years and there has been no sex. We are both Christians and sex is not a priority to us, nor is it an appropriate activity in our relationshipSo, my questions for you, smogon, are as follows (and please discuss the questions in a group fashion - I mean to start a discussion, and not simply ask for help. Convince me through your personal experiences):
- Are you a virgin? If so, then why are you still one? If not, then what made you decide to lose it/give it away?
- What are your views on the idea of "casual sex" or, in general, the value of virginity? Is it something worth keeping?
- If it is, why do you think it's worth keeping? If not, justify why it's lost its value.
- Do you think there's a certain dogma about being a virgin? Is it generally accepted, approved upon, or criticized?
- If you are not a virgin, what would you say to a virgin friend who is considering giving it up? Would you encourage him to lose it or keep it, and why?
- What emotional and relational requirements do you think there are for being ready to have sex for the first time?
Since when do people feel awkward/guilty after masturbating???Why is there an awkward/guilty feeling after masturbating, but not after a one night stand?
No. Losing it wasn't really something I decided to do, I simply wanted sex.Are you a virgin? If so, then why are you still one? If not, then what made you decide to lose it/give it away?
Casual (protected) sex is fine for two willing partners in my opinion. The value of virginity doesn't much matter to me, being a bit of a whore, but if someone wants that first time with whomever they're married to to be "extra special," that's understandable too. Different strokes.What are your views on the idea of "casual sex" or, in general, the value of virginity? Is it something worth keeping?
I'm sure it has arbitrary value somewhere. I'm a twenty-three-year-old with needs is all.If it is, why do you think it's worth keeping? If not, justify why it's lost its value.
There's only a dogma about virginity in immature chats and American Pie movies. People will criticize anything. I'm not a virgin and I still have critics.Do you think there's a certain dogma about being a virgin? Is it generally accepted, approved upon, or criticized?
I'd tell my friend that I'm a very biased judge for deciding what to do with someone's virginity. I would then change the subject.If you are not a virgin, what would you say to a virgin friend who is considering giving it up? Would you encourage him to lose it or keep it, and why?
I'll treat this question as "What requirements do you think there are for being ready to have sex with someone new for the first time?"What emotional and relational requirements do you think there are for being ready to have sex for the first time?
Yes. I guess it's due to my LDS upbringing, but also due to the fact that I have a strong belief that the greatest gift God gave us on this Earth is the ability to both create and end life. There is nothing more awe-inspiring then these abilities. They are not to be trifled with.Are you a virgin? If so, then why are you still one?
I definitely think it's worth keeping. By having both partners wait until marriage to have sex, not only do you have a special emotional bond that no one else will ever have with you but your chance of getting an STD is almost nonexistent. It makes any connections with your special one that much stronger. Casual sex is an abuse of a divine right given to start a family, a bond of which lasts throughout eternity.What are your views on the idea of "casual sex" or, in general, the value of virginity? Is it something worth keeping? Why do you think it's worth keeping?
Depends on the group you're around. I know plenty of people who have nothing but respect for those who are able to stay abstinent and others who "live life to its fullest" and screw around who really are quite indifferent.Do you think there's a certain dogma about being a virgin? Is it generally accepted, approved upon, or criticized?
Keep it. Until both partners have made a permanent commitment and have shown it through the bond of marriage, your virginity will almost always end up in the hands of someone who in the end really doesn't care about you. Stay strong.If you are not a virgin, what would you say to a virgin friend who is considering giving it up? Would you encourage him to lose it or keep it, and why?
To me, relational is a good stand on emotional anyways. I think I've said to wait til marriage enough but if I haven't - wait!What emotional and relational requirements do you think there are for being ready to have sex for the first time?
probably not the strongest way to bolster your statementsI am just saying what my parents taught me.